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I find it very strange that you got married only four months after the separation, to a girl who was pursueing you, which you did barely notice before. To me that sounds like "oh well, if I can't have what I want, let's take what I can get". Not very nice towards your wife.
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Wow, that sure sounds bad huh. It's kinda true. But I do love my wife, I wouldn't say I "settled", but the two are incomparable. I'm happy I married my wife. When we first got together, we discussed our definition of marriage and based on our own experiences (both from broken homes with lots of baggage) decided "I DO" was forever... We didn't have our first child for 5 years. (she's 12 now!)
Honestly, my wife is great, warm, trusting, sincere, a great mother, etc. Intellectually we are completely opposite. I can't come home and converse with her about fluid dynamics or thermal properties relating to inertia, etc. My ex and I COULD. Just thinking out loud still trying to get a handle on all this.
My ex assures me back then she didn't view me as sub-par. Probably was just an 18yr olds' assumption! Who knows. Being honest here has helped with my feelings though, I really have no one else objective to bounce this stuff off of. Most of my friends are to polarized. (Funny to, you can tell who thinks with what, some of my buddies are like, "What she likes SEX, go for it" others are saying, "she is damaged goods, drop her and run to your wife")
