Also, I prefer to keep my blog as "a personal journal where I express my thoughts, express my own personal opinion, interact with others on interesting topics, and make notes of what I understand to be factual information for those who may find useful for their information. Comments and blog entries posted on this site by me and other participants are only opinions and thoughts freely yet responsibly expressed, NOT professional advice." (I said in my
About page.) I will not pretend to be giving any professional advice. I have never intended my blog site to be a source of professional advice. It will never be. And I do not believe anyone without a formal professional training in "the field" will be qualified to give any advice. It'll only be "personal opinion." Even professionally trained people sometimes are powerless to help those suffering in crises. If there is anything or anyone, then it is TIME and THE SUFFERER HIMSELF OR HERSELF, as to whether he/she
allows himself/herself to
be healed/helped by others or medication. Because really some "victims" are just beating themselves up by feeling guilty, grievous, ..., by not letting go, by holding the dying in pains, ... etc. ... etc. (sometimes, to let go is to save a person from suffering. ) It's not that they don't know that they have to live on, move on, ... in life. Ever watched the movie "Titanic"? Yes, lossing a loved one is painful, heartbreaking,... whatever... so what?
Life must be lived forward. Death is part of life. Life cannot be life without death. I know I'm being
harsh on life here ...I'm sorry... but what else can we do when we come to a crisis where our life is turned upside down? To live forward or to continue to pity ourselves? To continue the will or hopes or whatever of the deceased, or to continue to grieve over the dead for months or years?? ... or whatever crises like that... YES, yes yes yes... any crisis can be so painful that death is worth. But stop, and ask oneself,"Will the dead loved one want to see me continue to grieve his death for years, to continue to beat myself up by feeling guilty/unhappy, to live a life without the dead loved one in unhappiness, in sorrow, ... etc. ??? " NO! Of course not. If he/she believes the dead is just "living" in another world and watching over him/her in this physical life, he/she should continue to live a happy, meaningful, fruitful life... for the deceased
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The above is just an example a bit "more serious" (???) than a marriage crisis or career crisis. There are other crises that are beyond our "mental" control. That does not fall in this category of crisis that we know of and we can mentally control, make life decisions ourselves, ...etc. If a person is suffering from a mental "crisis", let him/her be put in a
mental hospital and receive mental medication. What else should we do?
So, the "cure" is with us. Our destiny is in our hands and in the choices that we make in our life. One's personality/character is his/her destiny.
By the way, in my article, I said, Never ever abuse yourself with drugs or alcohol. I actually meant, drug that makes people addictive to it. Not medicative drug. If medication can "save" a life from crisis, then use it but still not abuse it.
