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Originally Posted by Ree  Have you been thinking about the kind of guy you DON'T want?
Rather than thinking about the kind of guy you want or don't want, perhaps you should focus on the state of being you want to achieve. In other words, focus on the sorts of feelings one normally has when one is in a successful relationship: contented, secure, peaceful, loving and most important, feeling loved! The last one is important because you have to love yourself in order to have that loving lasting relationship.
I've thought about this while reading your other thread and I've wanted to share this with you. What you really really want is a loving, lasting relationship; right? Perhaps the "other guy" was not the right pathway for you to arrive at that sort of relationship. Perhaps you can stop focusing on the how and just focus on the state of being in the relationship you desire. It may come in any number of totally unexpected ways, but it will come  |
yes,i HAVE been focusing on what i want. Totally! Every night when i go to bed i imagine laying in bed with someone i'm married to,someone who is loving and sweet...every time i see a happy couple out in public,i imagine thats me and MY husband. This is all i've been thinking about for the last year and a half (except up unti last week it was a certain guy) but even now,still,i think about the perfect relationship all the time! And i feel like i DO love myself,i really dont know what else to try because i feel like i can do no more.