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Originally Posted by Chado2423  How can I forgive without mending the relationship on some level... if there is no mending of the relationship it isn't real forgiveness is it? If I give up on her as you suggest, is that really love? |
Forgiveness needs no conditions or permissions. Forgiveness is a decision and when I forgive it is I who make the decision and it is I who work on the process of forgiveness within.
The person, place, thing or situation on which I have decided to bestow forgiveness never need know of my forgiveness for my act of forgiveness to be real and true.
Sometimes it is better to anonymously forgive. I think this is true when there is no ability to effectively communicate with the other parties and when saying something would be perceived as a form of manipulation with an agenda besides letting go of the situation.
Forgiveness equals love. Forgiving others is a way of expressing love for the other and a way of expressing true genuine love for myself as well. I often must forgive myself in order to be able to feel forgiveness towards others.
This works in my life. I have experienced adversity in my life and this is one of the tools I have used to live a life of choice and trudge the trail of happy destiny.