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Originally Posted by sheffy4  Wow, Angela, you are hardcore!
That's great that you are trying to protect someone from a potentially abusive spouse, but I would have to disagree that he is abusive.
Mom2boys,
It's funny that you posted this because I just had a conversation with my boyfriend 2 days ago about the exact same behavior! He has road rage, and he insults people (especially people on TV). I told him how much it bothered me, and I asked him why he does it. He thinks it's because he doesn't have an effective outlet for anger, so he lashes out at other drivers, or by making fun of people on TV. I told him that it may feel good (temporarily) to get out the anger, but all he is doing is perpetuating negative energy and it's not a productive way of releasing anger.
I suggested that he explore something healthier, like martial arts or something. I've been wanting to study martial arts for a while now, and I told him that maybe we could go to classes together. I'm not sure we will take any action on that for a while, but it really felt great for him to see how hurt I was by his insults of others. |
I have found that Aikido is a wonderful way to reform your behaviours around anger and agression. In Aikido, the harder you lash out at someone/something, the more it hurts YOU! Kind of a good allegory for life and Spirit, no?
Nothing will change a behavior faster than getting your self physically busted up every time you get aggressive.
