Also, Christian,
Despite what people say, it scares the hell out of me when people have been abused by, like, their father and somehow, they've "just forgiven them," they are "alright with it."
Untill you hold that person accountable for their actions in a professional setting (therapist) it's unhealthy to just accept the abuse. .
Please don't listen to the people who say, "Just decide to be happy" or "Don't put your energy into the past"
It is unsympathetic, insensitive,disconnected advice and without putting energy into the past in a professional environment, you are more than proven to repeat history, to abuse your children, in some way or another because it's the way you're wired in your thinking. You are not a bad person, your caregivers, like many, were insufficient . . you are smart to rise above.
You can do it, don't go it alone . .
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