 The Crises Stage Will Pass Soon
I just wanted to comment on this statement. For real trauma, it isn't true, so it is misleading to say it is.
IMHO, you need to do more research. Like talk to people who have lost their families to accidents, or survived war, or survived sexual abuse, or cancer deaths.
Many people spend at least a year in a total fog when they lose a close and dear loved one, like a spouse. Typically, much more time is needed than a year to enjoy what might be characterized as a 'normal' life.
If you are going to advise people who are in the midst of crises, you need to understand crises reactions. I don't mean to be harsh; but when folks are in real crises, the expectation that it will pass soon is not reasonable or realistic.
You may want to review the stats on vietnam veterans -- they show us a good example of the impact of pernatious crises or trauma on one's life. Many committed suicide. Many didn't acclimate back into mainstream life for decades. Another place to do research would be hospice care centers. All of us know or will know people who are ill and dying. How do those in hospice address that crises? How do their friends and families deal with it?
And please, take the statement about the crises passing soon out of your write up. In some cases it is correct; in many it is not, and that expectation just adds another issue to those going through a crises. How long does the crises last? Each one is different. They last as long as they last.
Blessings from Belle
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