Christian,
Thanks for sharing.
As far as the abuse, I'd suggest praying HE will help you find a good therapist. . .
Someone who deals with trauma and practices therapy in a
private practice.
I also have two favorite books for abuse/boundaries/trauma. .
"Facing Co Dependence" by Pia Mellody
Amazon.com: Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives: Books: Pia Mellody,Andrea Wells Miller
and any of John Bradshaws books, specifically,
"Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child"
Amazon.com: Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child: Books: John Bradshaw
Insecurity:
Insecurity
Here is a great site about coping and here's a specific link to "mirror work"
Mirror Work
You've got a great attitude.
You deserve to be seen and respected.
You deserve to live a good life.
You are a precious child of God.
Sincerely,
Kat