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Originally Posted by The Protagonist  My problem has to do with people going out of their way to make my life miserable. I'm usually a pretty nice person, but being treated as second class is one of the things I cannot stand for. The situation is resolved now, but I'd rather to let it happen again, because when you have that dense anger flowing through you it really disrupts your day. It also mentions your intentions for the intention/manifestation model, you can't put out positive intentions with negative feelings coursing through your self.
Dimitry that's why even though I would put out intentions, my concious would know that even though I'm putting out positive thoughts, I'm ignoring the situation at hand and I feel as if I am negating my self. |
No one is going to like one half of my answer, but I'll put it anyway.
My way of dealing with anger was for all my childhood on autopilot. It was imagining that I had given that cool response, or defended myself better. It is like Rambo to Vietnam: in a situation where you lost, you imagine ways in which you won. It has always worked for me: later on I discovered it is a device used by psychologists, but to me, it came as natural.
My second way of dealing with anger, if the source is a person with ill-intentions, is to cut connection with that person. I'm not in this world to endure bastards: I usually let them to eat their vile and that of their equals. That's a good punishment on its own. Problem is... What if you can't shun the negative people from your life. There are two choices: first one is endure. For that one, the imagination exercise before explained, and all the advice the rest of the posters have given you, are very good.
But, and this is what most of you aren't going to like: second one is revenge.
I'm not a vindictive person. Revenge is best served cold, made when you either have nothing to lose, or make absolutely sure that you won't get caught. I know a person, which I respect highly. This person is loving and tender and kind, but HATES abusive people. When the abusive person is a boss or someone far from his reach, he uses all the "cooling down" techniques and goes ahead. But when he's able to get revenge, he does. And, sad as it is to admit this one, the bullies who have an awful time after the revenge, happen to have a period of softness for a few weeks or months later. It's hard to say this, because it tells an important lesson about human beings. The abuser is unlikely to stop until something wrong happens to him/her.
As for me, I don't recommend revenge, because it is risky. The person I'm talking about has an ability to keep cool, save the affronts in his affront book, and backstab back months later in a way in which the "victim" never realizes where the blow came from. By the way, he never attacs physically: he attacks pride and reputation. I'd like to be a truly honest person and think that this vindictive human being is bad and despicable... But point is, people who get hit by his revenges do actually change. If not for the better, at least they are more cautious when trying to use or abuse people. They become humbler for weeks. It's like if this guy was a living force of karma. And one thing is clear: as long as he's plotting revenge, his anger subsides. And when he gets his revenge, he feels even better. Sad point is, the revenge is usually a lesson for the people who attacked him first.
So... Sorry to say this, but I think I had to. But, as I said... Revenge is not a good idea. I do better with my "imagining how it would have been perfect for you" little film. But, to some extremely cunning people, revenge works pretty well. Though... I wonder if it's good for your level of consciousness at all. What do you think?