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Christian223 · 11-28-2006, 01:59 AM

Brien: thanks for your advice. The thing is that sometimes, problems are extremelly sublte and hidden deep within our minds, and thats my case, i cant just forget about what i am thinking because it seems that its an automatic thing, i dont even realize what i am thinking until i put extreme effort on finding out what i am thinking.

I wanted to tell you all about what happened today, i had to go to school to speak to a teacher about a task i had to do for the past week, so, i went to her office, and they where like 6 teachers with her, this made it even harder, i got even more nervous, so, i got into the bathroom to calm down and rehearse what i was going to say, so im on my way out of the bathroom and my mind goes completely blank again, i stop and say to me "ok, ok, what do i have to say when i meet her, what can she reply back to me and what should i say in that case", so i had all my options covered, ok, so im ready, i go, i talk to her, everything goes perfectly normal, and im leave school, but when im on the bus, a sense of shame and discomfort comes to me, like "i did it all wrong" kind of thing, and it felt really bad, and i allways do that, so i try to apply the thing i learned about CBT, i analized why i felt like that, it was not because i did something wrong, it was because in my mind i had to do it perfectly and i though that i *must* do it like everyone else does it, well, i told to myself that i cant do that right now because im working on getting better at it, and suddenly the discomfort goes away, and im calm, so this technique really works, the think is that i must analize what i am really thinking deep in my mind, because its not a clear thing and its very hard to identify, even now im thinking "why i am writing this? people dont care about what i have to say", im working on it...

Past is past though, i have forgiven my father, he behaves likes a baby most of the time, i just need to work hard to get better.

Helgi: thanks a lot, i agree with you, ill check that book too, thanks.

Lychee: your words made me smile

Thanks.
It has been and still is extremelly hard to look into myself and accept the problems i have, its also been hard to post on this forum to a bunch of unkown people, i figured that there would be some people that would try to help me, at least one, in the end it was a great idea, and im really happy for the support i have got from all of you, im very gratefull, there are many advices to follow but i just need to work on them

thanks again.

11-28-2006, 01:59 AM	#14 (permalink)
Christian223 Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 312	Brien: thanks for your advice. The thing is that sometimes, problems are extremelly sublte and hidden deep within our minds, and thats my case, i cant just forget about what i am thinking because it seems that its an automatic thing, i dont even realize what i am thinking until i put extreme effort on finding out what i am thinking. I wanted to tell you all about what happened today, i had to go to school to speak to a teacher about a task i had to do for the past week, so, i went to her office, and they where like 6 teachers with her, this made it even harder, i got even more nervous, so, i got into the bathroom to calm down and rehearse what i was going to say, so im on my way out of the bathroom and my mind goes completely blank again, i stop and say to me "ok, ok, what do i have to say when i meet her, what can she reply back to me and what should i say in that case", so i had all my options covered, ok, so im ready, i go, i talk to her, everything goes perfectly normal, and im leave school, but when im on the bus, a sense of shame and discomfort comes to me, like "i did it all wrong" kind of thing, and it felt really bad, and i allways do that, so i try to apply the thing i learned about CBT, i analized why i felt like that, it was not because i did something wrong, it was because in my mind i had to do it perfectly and i though that i must do it like everyone else does it, well, i told to myself that i cant do that right now because im working on getting better at it, and suddenly the discomfort goes away, and im calm, so this technique really works, the think is that i must analize what i am really thinking deep in my mind, because its not a clear thing and its very hard to identify, even now im thinking "why i am writing this? people dont care about what i have to say", im working on it... Past is past though, i have forgiven my father, he behaves likes a baby most of the time, i just need to work hard to get better. Helgi: thanks a lot, i agree with you, ill check that book too, thanks. Lychee: your words made me smile Thanks. It has been and still is extremelly hard to look into myself and accept the problems i have, its also been hard to post on this forum to a bunch of unkown people, i figured that there would be some people that would try to help me, at least one, in the end it was a great idea, and im really happy for the support i have got from all of you, im very gratefull, there are many advices to follow but i just need to work on them thanks again.