[The David]

Originally Posted by makessense

What do you do when you find yourself trying to fix other people's problems.

I analyze whether my behavior is really a problem or not. I may continue, or I may admit that it's not my responsibility and let them take care of themselves.

It works for the most part in opening up their minds to different problems and solutions, but what about those people who cannot open their minds?

Opening a mind is like opening a can. A can is sealed tightly for security. It's only when you're ready to handle what's inside that you even break the seal on it. When that time comes, well, you can be the can opener. Until then, just try to be the shelf.

I'm talking about my friends/family here, so I care deeply about them. If they're not into personal development, should I even bother? Should I just tell them about my personal development projects and hopefully they'll catch on?

Having Christian fundamentalists for parents, I realize how annoying it can be to see people you care about and just want to change every damned thing about them...because that's probably what they see when they look at me. We still get along because they don't constantly shove their idealogies down my throat. Don't do the same to your family. If they are a burden on you, then bite the bullet and pull away until you are healthier. Either way, accept them as they are.

Is it ever alright to offend somebody to get them to realize certain things?

If someone is in physical danger, I would make an exception. However, if the harm is coming from within themselves, well, it's their right to do whatever damage they want.

I think with some people just 'talking casually' with them doesn't catch their attention, so I know "it depends", but if anyone has any other suggestions, tips, techniques that actually works for you, let me know! Thanks in advance.

Serenity. Accepting things and people as they are, helping where I can, and working on myself are the only things that work for me. 'Personal development', as we like to call it, is a very personal choice, and not an easy one to make. Let yourself off the hook.