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dendennz · 02-21-2008, 04:42 AM

Ok... 'coz I'm kinda naughty about this stuff myself, here's what I thought:

1. Any wet towels are to be thrown at hubby. Even if they're not his.
2. Any empty/dirty cups should be handed to him and/or put somewhere that is inconvenient to him. Where is his spot? Does he have his own desk?
3. Hide the remote control for the tv/vcr/dvd player/WII/PS2/PS3 whatever...
4. Misplace things of his. e.g. keys, wallet, favourite clothes... don't iron them... "forget" to wash them... Oops...
5. Make only YOUR side of the bed
6. Whenever you see anything of his out of order, give it to him. Just hand it to him and walk off. If he questions you say, "I figured it wasn't any of my business so I thought I should give it to you".
7. Make sure you're unavailable for any favours (of ANY kind) for him given that he's not doing you any favours AT ALL
8. Make a schedule for yourself - like a diary - of what you do all day. I'd get a book-style diary and write in every 30 mins what you've spent the time doing. Make sure he sees it e.g. don't hide it, leave it somewhere public/open. Put something enticing on it e.g. a chocolate bar or something that he might like e.g. a beer? See if he can avoid it... maybe if he sees what you do all day he'll realise you don't have time to be his slave. Include phone calls, anything you do for anyone else, running errands, housework, WORK WORK, getting your hair done, nails done etc. He needs to see how your life runs. Clearly he doesn't have a clue.

Just some thoughts. I'm twice-married and had a few partners and these are a few tri... uh... skills I picked up lol...

Cheers,

Jenny.

02-21-2008, 04:42 AM	#9 (permalink)
dendennz Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Wellington, New Zealand Posts: 120	Ok... 'coz I'm kinda naughty about this stuff myself, here's what I thought: 1. Any wet towels are to be thrown at hubby. Even if they're not his. 2. Any empty/dirty cups should be handed to him and/or put somewhere that is inconvenient to him. Where is his spot? Does he have his own desk? 3. Hide the remote control for the tv/vcr/dvd player/WII/PS2/PS3 whatever... 4. Misplace things of his. e.g. keys, wallet, favourite clothes... don't iron them... "forget" to wash them... Oops... 5. Make only YOUR side of the bed 6. Whenever you see anything of his out of order, give it to him. Just hand it to him and walk off. If he questions you say, "I figured it wasn't any of my business so I thought I should give it to you". 7. Make sure you're unavailable for any favours (of ANY kind) for him given that he's not doing you any favours AT ALL 8. Make a schedule for yourself - like a diary - of what you do all day. I'd get a book-style diary and write in every 30 mins what you've spent the time doing. Make sure he sees it e.g. don't hide it, leave it somewhere public/open. Put something enticing on it e.g. a chocolate bar or something that he might like e.g. a beer? See if he can avoid it... maybe if he sees what you do all day he'll realise you don't have time to be his slave. Include phone calls, anything you do for anyone else, running errands, housework, WORK WORK, getting your hair done, nails done etc. He needs to see how your life runs. Clearly he doesn't have a clue. Just some thoughts. I'm twice-married and had a few partners and these are a few tri... uh... skills I picked up lol... Cheers, Jenny. Last edited by dendennz; 02-21-2008 at 04:44 AM. Reason: Just taking care of business :)