Hiring someone to do even just an hour's housework a week for you could make a big difference to your peace of mind. Certainly working from home gives the impression that you are on the spot to take care of everything else. When someone is inconsiderate of keeping a space neat, clean and orderly it builds resentment and feelings of separation from your partner. You will feel less inclined to do things for him and in time not even want to be close to him. Nagging to get things done just leads to resistance. Have you talked it over with your spouse and told him how this behaviour upsets you? Is your husband willing to change his behaviour and share in the household tasks? Until you know that you will keep on feeling irritable and frustrated. When you do know what he is willing or unwilling to do to help then you can make plans to make your life more comfortable for you.
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