Michelle, like a baby learns to walk by projecting out an image of herself walking, and then she follows it, you can project out an inspiring image of yourself and follow it. To me, this is a much more fun form of growth than focusing on ridding myself of the unwanted, and it also makes it effortless to get rid of the unwanted, surprisingly!
One method I use is: clearly distinguish what the negativity is, in words. What does your little voice tell you, that has you feelng bad? See how pervasive that particular message is all over your life. And then: look boldly at what believing that message has cost you -- things like vitality, freedom, joy, connection. Look boldly at what your belief in that message has cost the people in your life -- because you can bet that your pain has a big impact on the people around you.
Be really present to those prices you and others have been paying. This is not easy, and it takes courage (which you have in spades.) And watch what inspiring new possibility arises. Look at a whole new way of being that, if you were being it, it would really light you up, and have you projecting out who you want to be in the world, and follow that inspiring new way of being like a baby!
When you are living out a possibility that inspires you, negativity can't stick to you -- it just can't keep up. It may catch up to you now and then, but when you re-invoke your inspiration and flick the gremlin off your shoulder, it gets easier and you get more powerful.
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