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annie · 11-05-2006, 05:47 AM

Hi Colin....welcome aboard.

Just read your post and am wondering a few things.

1) how old are you? are you living away from home to attend college?

Can I be blunt? As I'm sure you're painfully aware...your age-group is not the best at handling individuals with handicaps. So all that I read makes me feel sad for you. And I hope with all my heart that you know...it's NOT you...it's them!

You do sound loyal....being your word when you say you'll write or call. Some...(dang) young people just aren't their word...so kudos to you for that! ( I really don't mean to "dis" young people, just know I'm talking about SOME!...like the ones you're talking about)

I'm sensing that you'd be happy with just one or two really cool and loyal friends. I'm not sure the school cafeteria is the best place to look.

Have you tried the Library? What about in class...can you study with someone?

Everyone has gifts....what are your special gifts? Maybe there is another one that you could offer...like the gift of "validating" or complimenting others. Noticing them. Everyone loves attention.

Hang in there buddy. You just need to keep on...keeping on.

I'm sorry the religious affiliation isn't working out. Do you dare approach your minister and talk to him about your discouragement. I bet he could set you up with an accountability partner....or help you out with the church networking disappointments.

I'm sorry I don't know more, but I felt impressed to let you know that at least I care...and I feel confident to say that I'm sure there are many others on this board that do also.

Maybe you can find a little support here also.

annie

11-05-2006, 05:47 AM	#2 (permalink)
annie Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: USA Posts: 334	Hi Colin....welcome aboard. Just read your post and am wondering a few things. 1) how old are you? are you living away from home to attend college? Can I be blunt? As I'm sure you're painfully aware...your age-group is not the best at handling individuals with handicaps. So all that I read makes me feel sad for you. And I hope with all my heart that you know...it's NOT you...it's them! You do sound loyal....being your word when you say you'll write or call. Some...(dang) young people just aren't their word...so kudos to you for that! ( I really don't mean to "dis" young people, just know I'm talking about SOME!...like the ones you're talking about) I'm sensing that you'd be happy with just one or two really cool and loyal friends. I'm not sure the school cafeteria is the best place to look. Have you tried the Library? What about in class...can you study with someone? Everyone has gifts....what are your special gifts? Maybe there is another one that you could offer...like the gift of "validating" or complimenting others. Noticing them. Everyone loves attention. Hang in there buddy. You just need to keep on...keeping on. I'm sorry the religious affiliation isn't working out. Do you dare approach your minister and talk to him about your discouragement. I bet he could set you up with an accountability partner....or help you out with the church networking disappointments. I'm sorry I don't know more, but I felt impressed to let you know that at least I care...and I feel confident to say that I'm sure there are many others on this board that do also. Maybe you can find a little support here also. annie Last edited by annie; 11-05-2006 at 05:51 AM.