Often times the reason people don't heal is because there's a secondary gain from remaining ill. For example, could your secondary gain be that be that your illness is somehow holding your parents together and keeping their marriage from falling apart? Ask yourself what would happen if you were perfectly healthy. Do you anticipate any negative side effects?
People who recover from serious illnesses often do so by finding meaning in their illness and embracing a larger purpose. Usually that purpose goes far beyond getting well. An example would be that by getting well, you could share your success with others, thereby saving many lives.
From what you've written so far, it doesn't sound like your environment is conducive to healing. I can't tell you what to do, but If I were in your situation, I'd move out ASAP, as difficult as it may seem, and I'd do my best to spend time with the most positive people I knew.
Negative emotions like depression and guilt are known to contribute to disease, while positive emotions suppress disease. Norman Cousins' Anatomy of an Illness describes how he healed himself of a terminal disease by using laughter. I also know a local comedian who used a similar process to help his wife overcome a serious illness.
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