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Originally Posted by cylon  So basically you aren't happy, you saw this fantasy in your head, it made you happy, and you started clinging to it, that way you could ignore the other things in your life that you had more control over. If you're not meeting guys do something about it. Stop making excuses.
This fantasy you have is the perfect way to AVOID intimacy. You know it's not going to happen with this guy. So as long as you chase HIM, you can AVOID having your emotions be involved with a man in the REAL WORLD.
You've had plenty of time alone but you don't love yourself. You've already picked yourself apart and said reasons that guys wouldn't want you. Then you go another step and say "fine then I don't want you either" before they get a chance to meet you. You being so picky about men is a perfect way to prevent them approaching you and a perfect way to avoid real genuine human interaction. |
But i DID feel happy even before all this. I was happier than i ever was,i felt free,and i finally learned what it was that i wanted to do with my life. So why would i create a fantasy like this when i was already happy before?
I'm not picky like you think...i dont turn guys down before they have a chance to meet me. I have dated about 10 or 11 guys in my life,one of them i almost married. The part i'm picky about is looks (but EVERYONE has a type so don't call me shallow!),and im also picky about maturity. I've dated too many guys who acted like they were 10 years old. I'm also picky when it comes to how quickly i'll have sex. I dont like when guys make a move before i'm ready. I like to build a friendship first and have it slowly turn into something more,i respect myself too much to base a relationhip on sex.