I have noticed, in myself and in others, most don't want to be considered darkworkers. We don't really want to be selfish and uncaring, etc. Now, through some revelations, I would say without a second thought that I am a darkworker without being selfish or uncaring, etc.
First before I go onto explain myself, I would suggest
watching this video; it helps give darkworking a new light. Just as a sidenote, don't get caught up with the supposed negative or positive connotations with certains words.
From that whole 10-minute video, I would like to say just this:
Look for things to compliment on; look for things to ask about; look for things to appreciate. When you do, you look for things to feel good about and when you feel good, you find reasons to feel good and so you feel good.
So, I would say, to
be selfish. I mean, how can you put an air mask on a child in need if you just died because you didn't put yours on?
You can't help others if you don't help yourself. I am not saying that you have to start out as a darkworker before you can become a lightworker. In the end, the goal of polarizing with one of the 'workers' is peace and ultimate reality (as I see it). To a certain degree I would say that lightworkers are also selfish because they do things for others. When they see themselves doing others good, they see something to feel good about. If you aren't doing something good for others, and your goal was to become a lightworker, wouldn't you feel selfish and unworthy? So, to keep yourself from feeling selfish and unworthy, you do things that make you feel good; you help others.
As I write this, I realize now that being selfish is the base for both poles. You need selfishness in order to venture deeply into each. It seems to show the ultimate 'illusion' of light vs. dark. I see now, in a different sense, why you shouldn't worry about which side you are leaning towards. When you concentrate on being selfish, (Look for things to compliment on; look for things to ask about; look for things to appreciate....) everything begins to fall into place and you begin to go down the path you were looking for in the beginning; peace.