You're getting what you are thinking about both subconsciously, and superconsciously.
I've re-written some of what you have typed so you can change your thought patterns. Asking the right questions with a positive expectation can get you started in the right direction.
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Originally Posted by Chado2423 All I ever wanted to do was be a better friend to my ex-gf. But that just doesn't seem realistic. When I went to go apologize she turned my apology down. I was hurt, and my night-terrors have increased, and I haven't been able to eat, sleep, for well over two years. I'm having such a hard time letting her go. I know she's happier without me, but I'm so miserable without her. I wish I knew how to overcome this. |
New Thought:
"This sucks and I hate it. But feeling down and miserable is only hurting me and doing no one any good. If I am going to change the way I feel about this situation, its up to me. I must put effort in the right direction. Whats the first step I can take towards the resolution that I want? How can I slowly but surely change my feelings about it? Is improving my self-esteem the answer in this situation? hmmm How do I do that?"
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Thanks for the hug. This is what I keep hearing, but what does it mean, and why have I held on to my hurt for so long? |
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"I know I have hurt for a long time with this issue. Now I want to find ways to let go off it. I want to create life anew. What are the little ways that I can make this possible?"
This is from your original post:
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I'm going nowhere in life... I'm moving like a zombie... I'm just a sad depressed loser, who seems incapable of growing up and making his own choices. I used to be different, but I don't know how to go back to that. I used to make a lot of choices that positively impacted both my life and the lives of others, but lately I've failed in that endevour.
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New Thoughts:
"This place in my life seems un-like me. It clearly stinks. I feel like ****. But on some level I've created it... and I know that bit by bit I can rebuild it back. There are surely people out there in the world who were once feeling like this and turned their life around. With effort and maybe even significant time... I can get back to my old self. Time is going to pass anyway, I might as well change myself and my life"
Can you feel the difference in the thoughts? Your subconscious can't accept thoughts that are too far out. My suggestion is to be really really really aware of what you're thinking and change it. Work on improving your self-esteem. Read PD articles everyday. Continuously bombard your life with new actions, thoughts, beliefs, feelings, people, places. For this you must remain very aware.