Jamie, I'm going to tell you why I don't like guys who play power games vs. other guys: because I always have a feeling that while doing this, they don't let people just be who they are.
I want a loving guy who lets all others, including other guys, express themselves freely and interact with each other freely. Someone who's busy with dominating, cutting other males out off the action, or showing who the greatest alpha stud is, is not creating a space of genuine self-expression for anybody. Thus I won't feel good when I'm around him.
Plus, they focus on the form (how they're perceived) more than on the content (real interests), which makes them boring.
IMO it's perfectly ok if you're not dominant and for sure not the reason why you're single.
If you're totally confident, then you know you are great and lovable. Then you don't have anything to prove to other males and you don't need to impress the females either.
Just my opinion.
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