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sheffy4 · 02-19-2008, 01:27 AM

I have trouble asserting myself sometimes also.

First of all, after that guy said "does it look like it?" I would have said, "Actually, yes, that's why I asked. I didn't want to cut in front of you." After that, I don't imagine he would say anything mean back to you. If he did, I would have just ignored him and let the experience go.

You're not a wuss, I just think you are taken aback by the rudeness of people, which is fine. It would be sad if you always expected people to be rude to you, because you don't deserve that. You deserve kindness.

I know it's hard, but I would just try to speak up next time your brother, or somebody else, puts you down. Since you don't object to the ridicule, how are people supposed to know that it bothers you? And certainly don't LAUGH with them, then you are only encouraging them!
If you want to shut your brother up real fast, just say something shocking the next time he insults you.
Him: You have fat arse!
You: Oh yeah, well you have a small pecker!

02-19-2008, 01:27 AM	#2 (permalink)
sheffy4 Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 337	I have trouble asserting myself sometimes also. First of all, after that guy said "does it look like it?" I would have said, "Actually, yes, that's why I asked. I didn't want to cut in front of you." After that, I don't imagine he would say anything mean back to you. If he did, I would have just ignored him and let the experience go. You're not a wuss, I just think you are taken aback by the rudeness of people, which is fine. It would be sad if you always expected people to be rude to you, because you don't deserve that. You deserve kindness. I know it's hard, but I would just try to speak up next time your brother, or somebody else, puts you down. Since you don't object to the ridicule, how are people supposed to know that it bothers you? And certainly don't LAUGH with them, then you are only encouraging them! If you want to shut your brother up real fast, just say something shocking the next time he insults you. Him: You have fat arse! You: Oh yeah, well you have a small pecker!