[Lola]

I've avoided this thread like the plague cuz I really didn't want to go all bad-@ss Lola on anyone (the title alone kind of ruffled my female feathers). But now it looks like we're reaching a reasonable consensus.

Dominant, dominate, dominating, domineering - yaddayaddayadda - all of those words invoke (in me) a picture of Big Man keeping Little Woman firmly under his boot where she bygod belongs.

Much more to my liking when describing men who are appealing to women, are words like - Confident, Self Aware, Self Assured, Respectful, Considerate, Kind...