[Joely]

Originally Posted by Chado2423

Even after all of this arguing about competence vs. confidence... you can't realistically "act as if" you have money... "act as if" you are competent when you aren't... "act as if" you have confidence when you don't. One of you mentioned swimming, which is one of my favorite passtimes... But the first time I went in the pool I was afraid of the water, I lacked both competence and confidence... I didn't even want to be in it, but my dad pushed me in the pool... after a few sessions of learning how to move in the water, I eventually broke my fear of the water, and now when I go to my family reuinions I can swim very far out into the lake, further than most of my cousins. I don't have speed... they waste their energy, swimming so energetically and so fast... I swim slow, but further. Nonetheless my point is that "Act as if" just doesn't work... you can't "Act as if" you are an olympic swimmer the first time you enter the pool... you have to be taught, you have to be trained, you have to know how to move in that setting. I can't be a millionare, by "acting as if" I'm one, when I only have two dollars in my pocket. Indtead I have to break past my fear of being broke... I may need to actually accept that I'm broke, depressed etc, before I can move foreward and get a job and make money.

Can I just say that I'm glad to read this - you sound like you're feeling better. This is great progress