Even after all of this arguing about competence vs. confidence... you can't realistically "act as if" you have money... "act as if" you are competent when you aren't... "act as if" you have confidence when you don't. One of you mentioned swimming, which is one of my favorite passtimes... But the first time I went in the pool I was afraid of the water, I lacked both competence and confidence... I didn't even want to be in it, but my dad pushed me in the pool... after a few sessions of learning how to move in the water, I eventually broke my fear of the water, and now when I go to my family reuinions I can swim very far out into the lake, further than most of my cousins. I don't have speed... they waste their energy, swimming so energetically and so fast... I swim slow, but further. Nonetheless my point is that "Act as if" just doesn't work... you can't "Act as if" you are an olympic swimmer the first time you enter the pool... you have to be taught, you have to be trained, you have to know how to move in that setting. I can't be a millionare, by "acting as if" I'm one, when I only have two dollars in my pocket. Indtead I have to break past my fear of being broke... I may need to actually accept that I'm broke, depressed etc, before I can move foreward and get a job and make money. Being happy, and acting as if you are happy are two different modalities... and this debating between competence and confidence just really proves that this method doesn't work. Pushing past the fear of going to a job interview, is the only way you can overcome that fear. But this only works when the situation is tailored to your desire. For example, supposing you want to get a job at the pizza joint. You go in for the interview, but they aren't looking for someone like you. So even if you put on a smile (a happy face) they still may not hire you, because their modality is different from yours.
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