Accept, like and love yourself for who you are right now. That's really what it is all about. I only recently found out my way of loving myself and that was to love myself like a mother does. I do not know if this will work for you? Perhaps, seeing yourself as a little girl deserving and worthy of all love? We look at babies and think how adorable they are and all we want to do is love them. You were a baby once, just because you are now an adult doesn't make you less lovable. Through another forum member, I saw this. I'd already been working on accepting and liking myself.
I had a huge list of reasons to hate myself. First off, I thought I was no longer kind, so I decided to be kind again. First, I did things for strangers, like helping old people across the road, or on/off the bus, held doors open for people, then I looked to those around me who needed kindness and I did things for them. Sometimes, they didn't want me to do things for them, but that must have been some resistance in myself. I worked on it and I started to feel, yep, I am kind. So, kind went on to the list of things I love about myself list. I noticed I did not really listen to people or thought I knew what they were telling me before they had even finished. So, I started to listen to what they were really saying and not what I thought they were saying. Still working on this.
When I ride the train, I look at strangers and think nice things about them. Stuff like that.
What can you start doing, right now, to be the things on your list?