Because you are defining yourself by the outside world. Guess what, you define yourself, no one else. You are a victim by choice. I was, too.
If you are feeling misunderstood, be sure that you are also misunderstanding others. Try understanding others for a while. And, I don't mean that if someone is mean to you that you should start beating yourself up about it. Understand that there is something in them that is hurting and lashing out at you is giving them power, your power. Perhaps, there is something to look at in yourself, but do it with love and acceptance and if you find something, put it on your list to change. But, don't put it on your reasons to hate yourself list.
You don't really know what others are thinking, you only know what you are thinking. The judge is you. Sure you pick up vibes, but when you change, your vibes also change. The negative vibes you pick up are really just a match for what you feel inside. Work on you and have compassion for everyone else, cause like you, they want to be happy.
Make a list of things that you love about yourself and when you make a change, add that change to the list. Accept even the negative stuff. I can be a ♥♥♥♥♥ if I want to. But, I get to choose.
