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Originally Posted by Christian223  The problem is that i *was* comfortable with my introversion for many years, but a few months ago i realized that thats not a good thing anymore because im extremelly alone, |
Ok - so I think it's great that you're seeking to improve yourself - but is the problem your introversion or that you don't have enough friends? I commend your desire to get to the underlying problem, but I'd advise you againt adopting the mentality that something's "wrong" with you. The problem isn't that you're introverted - it's just that you want some more friends!
In addition to the good advice in this thread, you may want to check your library for some books on overcoming social phobia and also some books on overcoming emotional abuse. (I got a lot of use out of
this one)
If you suffered emotional abuse, it's likely that whenever you try to socialize, all the negative things you've heard about yourself come bubbling back up. The key to correcting this (in my experience) is to recognize those thoughts when they appear, identify them for what they are, and then remind yourself that they're not *accurate* descriptions of you and that you don't have to listen to them.
Let it be a gradual process, and when you do this once succesfully - even just once! - journal about it and write about how good it feels to be taking the steps forward (in my experience, it's better to think about what you're doing right than what's wrong!)
Just some thoughts from someone who has undergone something similar, hope this helps.