What Erin said was spot on. Why he's agro at you is completely to do with what's going on in his life. It could be anything from being annoyed at you for something, to being annoyed at other people or even the world, and even up to the general anxiety most people get day to day.
You can call him on it though. Find out what's really going on for him and that way you can deal with the issue. It's unworkable to be in a situation where a person can bark at you and you have to jump and do something immediately. My mum used to do that all the time, but it's only when I told her what it was doing to us (I was dileberately avoiding her), and then used that as an opening to ask her why she was always barking orders at me. It turns out that it was the only way she knew how to encourage people, and she just wanted me to be more self sufficient.
Finding out why a situation is occuring is the quickest and best way to diffuse it. Find our why he's always like that and you could avoid having anything like that occur in the future.
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