Hey Christian, I went through a similar phase where being outgoing and social became really exhausting. I also suffered quite heavily from social phobia for most of my life, and senior year of highschool I decided to force myself to be outgoing. It worked in the sense that I was being much more social and made more friends etc. But after a certain point, somewhere in sophomore year of college it became really tiring/exhausting to constantly put forth the effort of being social. I was constantly using courage and willpower to brute force my actions to overcome my fears of social situations, and it took a lot of energy to do that. I'd make progress, but then it seemed just as easily I'd revert back to seeming real introverted. After awhile I just had enough of the bruteforce approach...emotionally exhausting for me. Taking a different approach nowadays, which is dealing with the underlying issues that cause the social phobia, and it's removing much of the stress with being outgoing. For that I'm using EFT. I'm thinking that I can eventually get to the point where being social involves no more fear than being by myself. I'd say it's definitely possible, for me, you, anyone else, just start working on dissolving fears/irrational thoughts.
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