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Originally Posted by Jamie  So, what exactly is DOMINANCE?
I have my own thoughts, in that it's knowing EXACTLY, what YOU want, and going for it in a very clear and concise manner, perhaps even with an outer, or external gentleness, but internally, knowing exactly what your agenda is, and following through, not being intimidated by any other guys, or implied threats of violence etc.
What do you guys (and ladies) think? |
Not being intimidated by "other guys" is a start. You see it's not about dominating your lady. It's about protecting her from all the other jerks out there!
Lots of men interpret being dominant as being mean towards the lady. No, no, no! It's about being confidant in your own skin, and in your own career, and not being intimidated by other men you are in competition with, while being gentle and considerate to the lady. That way she'll admire you and respect you and be glad you are with her.
Many men who are unsuccessful in the outer world - workplace etc - try to make up for it by dominating women, thinking they are the "weaker" sex and an easy mark and it's an easy way to make themselves feel better. This has "loser" all over it, and the only women who will put up with this type of guy are desperate or confused or very young and haven't figured things out yet.
Remember that from the woman's point of view, the ideal male is so confident in his skin, he doesn't have to be mean to women to feel good. On the contrary, he treats his lady with respect and consideration. Note that the man doesn't have to have a ton of money or drive a flash car - he just needs to be respected and rated by his peers because he knows what he's doing, has self-esteem and is thought of as a sound bloke.
I agree with dancer that "dominant" may be the wrong word here. Dominant implies "control". Women are looking for someone confident and strong rather than controlling.