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Originally Posted by mncz  I have actually locked out my mother from my life for about a year because of a quite similar problem. I know it is passive aggression and does not essentially solve anything. But it worked for me! I got away from a very depressing influence (you cant do anything right! you are not what I expected you to be at all!), I cured my mild depression that had lasted for a decade and got to be generally a better and happier person!
And then one day I called her and asked how she was and we went to have dinner and miraculously it worked out fine and has been ever since.
What I want to say is - perhaps you need to step away from the problem to solve it either by changing yourself or at least your perception about it. |
I'm glad this worked for you! I personally dont think it would work with him because my mom divorced him,and my brother avoids him for weeks a at time,and my dad's girlfriend has quit talking to him before for a few months,and what my dad does to these situations is blames the other person. "your mother wasnt happy until she took me for everything i had!" "your brother never answers his phone when i call! He doesnt give a **** about anyone but himself" "(his girlfriend) isn't talking to me,she's crazy anyway" This is how he reacts when people step away from him,he gets worse. Because the problem is within himself.