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Christian223 · 11-27-2006, 03:46 PM

Thanks everyone for your responses, ill follow everyones advice for sure, i think they are very good advices. Its so true that i try to go from white to black belt, ill make the first steps first. Nice article too, it says many truths.

I belive i dont have that disorder, because i dont have motor problems, just nervousness, and i am not extremely smart either, and i have no repetitive behaviour, also i dont have trouble about finding whats good and bad socially, but thanks for pointing that out anyway.

I just did that test, im an INTJ too (im extremelly independent to the point of never asking people for questions EVER, and introverted too), that must be because im a programmer, i work much with computers, but im also a graphic designer, and an illustrator, im not focused in only the technical things, i try to learn many different subjects.
The problem is that i *was* comfortable with my introversion for many years, but a few months ago i realized that thats not a good thing anymore because im extremelly alone, i have oportunities to make friends, but my self-defense mechanisms doesnt allow me to. Im so intreoverted that i have allways thought "why would i want to be with people?, i prefer to DO things i enjoy", but i realized that i dont have anyone to share things with, i have no friends, i know some people, but no real friends, and no girlfriend wich would be nice to have at this time of my life, if i could only stop beign so introverted, i dont think i would be able to have a girlfriend right now because i consider myself so boring, i dont have willingness to talk, simple as that, i dont like to talk to people.
I go to church, i read the bible there, im ok doing that, i also go to college, and i work, but when i have to speak to someone i get nervous, i can talk but very nervously and i hate it, even when i have to speak to family members i get nervous, i blame the emotional abuse as i said before.

Its so hard to admit i have low self steem, its like its something i cant even think about, something so deep within me that i dont even realize that i have been thinking like that all the time... but i realize now and im going to change it, thanks a lot you have been very helpfull.

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Christian223 Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 312	Thanks everyone for your responses, ill follow everyones advice for sure, i think they are very good advices. Its so true that i try to go from white to black belt, ill make the first steps first. Nice article too, it says many truths. I belive i dont have that disorder, because i dont have motor problems, just nervousness, and i am not extremely smart either, and i have no repetitive behaviour, also i dont have trouble about finding whats good and bad socially, but thanks for pointing that out anyway. I just did that test, im an INTJ too (im extremelly independent to the point of never asking people for questions EVER, and introverted too), that must be because im a programmer, i work much with computers, but im also a graphic designer, and an illustrator, im not focused in only the technical things, i try to learn many different subjects. The problem is that i was comfortable with my introversion for many years, but a few months ago i realized that thats not a good thing anymore because im extremelly alone, i have oportunities to make friends, but my self-defense mechanisms doesnt allow me to. Im so intreoverted that i have allways thought "why would i want to be with people?, i prefer to DO things i enjoy", but i realized that i dont have anyone to share things with, i have no friends, i know some people, but no real friends, and no girlfriend wich would be nice to have at this time of my life, if i could only stop beign so introverted, i dont think i would be able to have a girlfriend right now because i consider myself so boring, i dont have willingness to talk, simple as that, i dont like to talk to people. I go to church, i read the bible there, im ok doing that, i also go to college, and i work, but when i have to speak to someone i get nervous, i can talk but very nervously and i hate it, even when i have to speak to family members i get nervous, i blame the emotional abuse as i said before. Its so hard to admit i have low self steem, its like its something i cant even think about, something so deep within me that i dont even realize that i have been thinking like that all the time... but i realize now and im going to change it, thanks a lot you have been very helpfull.