Well it probably won't help you much, but I'll tell my story anyways.
I'm an 18y.o. guy who has never had a serious, actual, relationship. I'm attractive enough, confident in myself enough, but my one problem would be that I'm a "loner". Meaning, I don't feel any need to put myself out there and get to know people. I like people, I just always end up deciding not to get involved with others lives. If that even makes sense...
Since I'm trying to change that, for this Valentines Day, I was going to take a shot at asking this one girl out (who seems to be on the same wave length as me) in one of my college classes. Except there really wasn't any opportunity to say a word to her, she came in after class had started, and at the end of class she rushed out and was on her phone. lol
Maybe I'm just weird, but being "alone" on another Valentines day doesn't bother me. It is just another day, no matter how many holiday enthusiast TV and radio commercials tell you otherwise. I honestly feel great today, despite the missed opporunity earlier.
The only advice I can think to give you is:
Learn to be comfortable with yourself. Learn who you are.
Then go about living your life normally, without feeling some sort of pressure to go meet someone. Keep your mind open, without having a set of conditioned expectations to start off your day. Just be yourself, and be open to others. You can't force a good relationship to appear for you, love just happens. Frustration won't get you any where faster then patience.
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