I disagree with aspiring- at least in part- I think you should go out on a few dates at least with anyone who asks (of course must at least make you feel safe/comfortable)- of course be picky as you want when it comes to long-term exclusive relationships with them, but get out there and give guys a chance to know you and you to know them beyond the superficial stuff. Plus random bad dates make you better able to identify the good ones and recognize their value, plus it's just good to practice communicating/building rapport with a variety of people (spoken as an introvert who needs the practice- maybe you don't...).
Definitely agree about finding activities you like... even if informal, even if not really good dating activities... I've had random guys chat and eventually ask for my number at the bookstore when I'm looking at PD/religious books, just walking from lunch back to the office, plenty of times... part of it is maybe just having an open mindset to meeting new people...
Also I've met guys online- think you might try that if you just want to meet totally new people for dates- it's worked out well for me... just craigslist not a real dating site cuz never felt it worth the money/commitment to it and not wanting so much pressure... my advice is just to put out an honest laid-back ad looking for just dates, pick through and reply anywhere at all promising, and try to get to meeting before investing any emotion in a particular guy- of course there're lots of ways for an individual pairing to not work out... but again just lots of introductions -> lots of low-key dates -> lots of options and hopefully someone you find attractive enough to get more serious with
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