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Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity}  Hey, zoo. I am not sure if I have the answers to all your questions, but let me give you something to be thankful for. You are young! I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 25. And he broke up with me only a little while back...right before our anniversary and Valentine's Day. All I am saying is it could be worse!
But seriously, I am not an advocate of "going with the next guy willing to date me regardless of how I feel about them." I doubt the relationship would be fulfilling in any way in that case. However, I am all for being open to new experiences and different types of people which you may have previously blocked out (thanks to recent threads). If you want to attract a certain type of guy, embody and generate the qualities you would like him to have. And also go to places where you can enjoy activities you really like. There you can find someone who shares your passions. If you like bars or clubs, sure go. You might run into Freelancer or Fullcrum and they'll show you a good time. |
LOL
I think we should all go out to a club just to watch Freelancer and Fullcrum. It sounds like loads of fun.
Seriously...
Hi Zoomorphic,
I'm another woman spending her time alone on Valentine's Day. By choice, however. I agree that you shouldn't just go with the next guy who comes along - I speak from experience on that score. For one thing, it's unfair to him. He might assume you have feelings you don't and it's a let down when you realise you can't keep up the whole charade. Besides which, people pick up when they're not really liked.
What I do suggest is that you shouldn't be so hard on yourself. How you feel about yourself radiates outwards and people pick up on it. So it's important to develop your self-esteem and confidence around the men you like. Go out, try out new experiences, and most importantly, enjoy the time you've got to be single.