DH, I haven't read the entire thread so apologies if I duplicate.
I'm certainly not saying values are fixed, not at all. You may have a number 1 value of freedom and a number six value of health. If you then get diagnosed with a serious disease it's likely that health will rapidly increase in importance to you. Beliefs canand do change all the time and they are much simpler to play about with but let's stick to values.
If you value freedom it's because it's important to you, so that begs the question why would you want to change that? The simple act of wanting to move a value probably means it's already a priority to you and more important than you realise.
I think you may be confusing what your values are, with actually living to your values and that is something completely different. It sounds like you may have a value conflict which are very common. Aligning your values with your life takes a bit of work but can be done.
I'm going to check out SP's take on values later so thanks for the links ATC.
One final thing to be aware of. We also have away from values and very often it is when a toward and an away from value clash that the problems arise. |