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Originally Posted by Dreamlife Hero  I know I'm intrinsically free... but I don't feel free when I'm obliged to do something.
I would not feel free in a 9-5 job, in prison or even in a restrictive relationship.. because my definition of Freedom is: Doing what I want, when I want! If I want to sit in a park and read, or play pool in a bar with a friend..then I can't do those things if I'm being prevented.
You might guess but going to prison is my #1 moving away value; nothing fills me with greater terror than the prospect of being imprisoned and having zero autonomy.
But, obviously this value has caused a few problems including broken relationships. That's why I'd like to change that particular 'Value'. |
To me it sounds like the belief that you aren't free when you are obliged to do something is not a very empowering belief.
I feel like I get what you are saying about how you wouldn't feel free in those listed situations, but that's a choice. You chose to feel that being in any one of those situations is restrictive of your freedom. Now, I am not saying you are supposed to be in any of them at all, but if you want a relationship, I think you will need a more empowering belief about the nature of relationships.
I may be just giving you more things you've already looked at, but here are a couple of articles by Steve that may help:
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/200...ering-beliefs/ http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/200...ering-beliefs/ http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/200...ctive-beliefs/