[Jcs]

You got some interesting points WilliWibald.

Originally Posted by WilliWibald

Hi Jcs,

hmm, I can totally relate to what you say about being not passionate about standard hobbies (like [any sports] or painting/writing etc.). It's the same for me. But I guess you are somehow interested in Personal Development. Am I right?

I guess so.

Why not make this a hobby? Getting better at fundamental things (like being happy more often, develop your discipline, try strange new healthy diets, smash the fear of public speaking, approaching strangers and keep them in a conversation for 15 minutes, approaching beautiful girls or boys if you like them too :-).

Not really something I would do, any time soon, without a cause. I mean, why develop these skills if I have no purpose to use them for? Although I guess most of them are always useful.

And, what I have found crucial for all of this: Try to do it with others. Find a group, that wants the same. You don't have to agree on everything they think or say, but it's always helpful to have others around that are passionate about at least one thing you are also passionate about.

I'm a 'loner' by heart . I don't need to be 'right' all the time but when someone doesn't even understand my point in something that really frustrates the hell out of me.

For this sleeping all day thing: What helped me, was being expected somewhere (like in a job at 9am). Just for myself, it often was not important enough to start right now anything consistently. But if I knew there is someone waiting und I face consequences if I let them wait, that motivates me (even if the work is mediocre important from my point of view).

The point where I felt guilty about showing up late or not at all has been long gone.

You seem to have some beliefs, that hinder you from building a social network, attract friendships in your life. And clinging to one person as a friend is also a big invitation for problems. These believes are not very helpful in making you happy. Have you heard of "Pick Up" (PU)? A big part of this is about forming new believes about social interaction that get better results than the ones you seem to have. When you read about PU you will no longer be surprised why the girls want to be with a man, who doesn't really need them and shows it.

Only heard about this called "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists " . Reviews aren't *that* positive though.

One more hint... Scientifically proven method against depression/feeling down: Take a cold shower. Consistently. Every Day. And every day a little longer. Just Do it for 10 days in a row. Every morning. Every evening. Every time a little longer. Just do it. If you don't I will come and force you to ;-)

With room temperature at 19 degrees (C) I'm already freezing to death .

Oh well, at least I cleaned the house yesterday ^^. Now I need kick myself hard enough to get productive...