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Originally Posted by jtrikster  Don't look at college as the solution to the problem. You should go to college when you feel you know what you want to do and you feel passionate about pursuing it. I've noticed people nowadays push college without realizing there's something you have to do first before you attend and that is, to a certain extent, finding yourself. A more accurate explanation would be finding purpose in going to college.
So you need to ask yourself a few questions:
Why do I want to go to college?
What am I going to do with my college degree?
Is it really what I want?
Don't feel pressured either to get it right the first time. You don't necessarily have to make the RIGHT decisions the first time. Most of the time, you won't know the right decision, so don't beat yourself up if you find that you actually want to do something else. You need to make the decisions to narrow down your passions. The more decisions you make, the closer you get to discovery. |
i understand all what you are saying...but i don't know what my passions are, and i don't know how to find it either because there are so many different types of careers and thing i can do, how can i just pick just one and be satisfied for the rest of my working life? I was taught to believe i guess that college is where you go to find out what to do, and that you go here for the experience to meet friends and also to figure out what you want to do. I guess you are suppose to already know at 18 right after you graduate high school and took general classes such as math (which suxed the whole 3yrs i had to take it), 2yrs of foreign language, chemistry, biology, 3 different electives just to prepare you for COLLEGE. from 1999 to 2003, my grandparents, family, and teachers and counselors were preparing my whole class and school for COLLEGE. now i find out i wasn't ready! why??? my grandparents paid a ton of cash for catholic all girl school and college prep school and the dumb SAT prep classes and college prep classes and all this other stuff to prepare me. But when i got into college, i found out i didn't have the focus to study, cause i wasn't studying. i would go out with my room mate to the clubs and have fun and joined a sorority my sophomore year (dropped out tho later on). when i was suppose to be studying, i would procrastinate the very last minute til the night or hours before the exam or quiz. i was kinda passing but not really and i just stopped going cause i started to strip and make loads of cash and studying became extinct and i started to become depressed after i broke up with my second love of my life after a year and a half and we were suppose to move in together but plans changed when we broke up, so i had to find my own apartment. wow that was a long sentence, sorry. anyway, the more stuff i started to experience, school wasn't getting taken care of. i don't really see how anyone can be a stripper and a student, when would you have time? school is in the day and stripping at nites, even if u wanted to work during the daytime, when would you be able to go to class. i know they have night classes but still...i didn't do that, so i stopped going....
but now i feel like i should go back because i don't know what else to do. getting a part-time job sounds like an option for me. but i thought having a college degree is a big deal and accomplishment. i know some people who have graduated recently and they are not the smartest crayon in the box. but they get theirs and i haven't! just makes me upset! why didn't i just stick with it? why did i ever strip in the first place? i lost my bf through it and lost alot of respect in my self while during it. it was like i turned something off while i was doing it, and just did it, cause i thought i was getting 'so much money'. but i have none of the things i bought from it nor any cash in my accounts. i just wish i would of known, but its the past now, and now is now. so what am i going to do now? what should i do now? right now, i'm not doing anything. well, i just recently started taking yoga classes. so that is something. but i mean, i still need something to do. i still have to get some knowledge or get a job or contribute to the society. i can't forever live off my grandparents and be a loser!
so i ask myself and others, what should i do now? i was thinking taking a few classes i guess at a community college. i was thinking about the film school, but its so expensive and i don't know if that is my 'PASSION'. I don't know what my passion is...is it helping people? is it listening to peoples problems? is it to help children? is it to just learn the trade of graphic design to increase what i know already alittle bit about graphic design?
what does one do, when one doesn't know. and then im starting to read 'Power of NOW' by Tolle and its saying 'DONT THINK'. Um, huhhhh? If I don't think, how will I do things? But I guess I have to keep reading to find that answer out.
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Originally Posted by Amandaaa ...First of all... I've actually done that^ before (minus the marijuana), so I know how terrible and guilty it makes you feel. 
I did that on and off for about 5 months, until I finally just told my mom that I didn't like it there, and that I didn't want to go back to that school.
She could tell that I was depressed and confused, so she was more supportive than angry with me. I ended up staying out of college for about a year and a half following that, and even though my parents weren't thrilled, they were also really nice about it, because they knew that I was going through a hard time and trying to figure out what I wanted to do.
Soooo... my advice is to stop telling your parents that you're taking classes. If I were you, I would get a little part-time job so it looks like you're doing something... Tell them that you decided to take this semester off...and spend some more time brainstorming, and figuring out what you're really passionate about. Tell them that you really want to get into cinematography and production (or whatever), and start doing some heavy research in the entertainment industry. Enroll in one of the million film schools that LA has to offer, and start networking to get your foot in the door. 
I really don't think that your situation will be that hard to get out of-- especially since places like The Los Angeles Film School have an open enrollment policy. and it only takes one year to complete! 
Maybe you could get some kind of internship or small intern-type job this summer in the film industry...? That would be a perfect way for you to start meeting some people and making connections. Just keep learning more about it and exploring your options, and hopefully you'll find your little niche and everything will start making sense to you.
You'll be fine. Just try to be open and honest with your parents. Tell them what's on your mind instead of hiding it from them. |
I'm really going to try to do this. i think finding a part-time job is a very good idea for me at this point in my life. Doing tasks and having something to do and being around people...but i don't know what type of job or where to look?
I was also thinking of taking up a few classes at a community college, but i do not know what, general education classes (math, history, biology, chemistry, drawing) the stuff you need in order to graduate with a B.A.....or child development course, cinema course, psychology course....i mean there are so many options. i would hate to take a class, get the credit for it, then it doesn't apply to what i really want to do to graduate or with my major. or anything. i really don't want to take a class and it doesn't apply for credit with my major in the end. or maybe i want to try for an Associate's Degree and major in a trade like child development or graphic design, and go from there. But what to choose, what to choose??? just so many options.
I believe if i would of still in college when I first started and stuck through it, I would have a definite idea of what to do or what I want to do. But I feel like now, since I stopped and it seems more difficult to get back in, I don't know where to go or what to do.
Maybe I should just say forget college and a degree, and a possible guarantee for a job that would possibly be my passion or at least pays 50,000 or more a year, house, nice car, nice clothes. (sorry, but in LA, that is the illusion i keep seeing, trust me im not making it up. it really feels like everyone that is ahead HAS their BA's and Master's degrees, with their two story home they just remolded recently and just added a pool and jacuzzzi. and did i mention they have either a mercedes, lexus, or range rover. and i mean a good i dunno 45%. the other percentage is either in poverty on welfare or just middle class living pay check to pay check worrying about how to save more money and how to get ahead while they struggle along to pay their monthly bills, i don't want to be this!!).....
i really don't want to struggle in life. i really want to achieve and be happy and have a job where i feel joy or happy or at least content. but how do i find this passion? how do i find what i am or can do? or should i just choose something and say "f" it and just move along, and be like the masses. mostly miserable at their jobs sitting in front of a computer in a cubicle....it just sux, i wish there was a website where it can help u more on getting a clue on life and just get over it and do what u have to do, stop all this delay. but i am, i keep holding myself back...