I don't quite understand the issue here... are you frustrated with her because of her negative actions directed at you or are you embarassed for her/feeling responsible for her emotions or what? If you're solely frustrated with her reaction toward you then I really don't understand- if someone I loved said: (assuming a bit) "ok I know sometimes when things go wrong in my life I get upset and wrongly let it spill over into how I treat you and I'm really sorry for doing that; I'm working through it in my own time, but for now if I do it again accidentally could you just let me know and give me some space so I can cool off and stop myself?" I would be happy to try to help them on their own path and to not take it personally and to love them for admitting/owning their shortcomings... so I don't get it...
also why would you "aggressively" play board games if you know the likely result? I mean really... you can harp about her being more responsible for her emotions or you can choose to avoid situations that trigger them...
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