You sound like me, fascinoma, with the late-bloomer thing. Not being involved in your life and letting the world happen around you. Being caught up in metaphysical stuff and navel gazing, contemplating, being awful serious.
You can change. But you have to want it. And you have to do things differently. So what's your motivation to do things differently? What's your motivation to be more assertive? Meaning, you see some benefit down the road or you wouldn't be thinking of changing. That benefit, that change, has to become a goal for you. And the only way you can get the sense that you've accomplished your goal, is to do things that are in alignment with that goal.
What I am doing personally is setting lots of little goals for myself. I basically make everything a goal. I set the little goal, achieve it, then say "goal achieved". This is 24/7.
It may sound silly but I've been doing this for two weeks now and my life has already changed drastically. I decided to take responsibility for all my actions, and to start seeing my time as a valuable resource. Right now, this posting I'm doing, I've alloted time for it. In another couple minutes I enter a new "fifteen minute cycle" and I'll plan the next 15 to 30 minutes.
Do you see your time as a valuable resource? Do you know where you're going?
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