Colonel made a good point too. Thank the voice when it rips you. It really is doing what it thinks is best for you. It may well feel weird to do so, but in time you'll learn to smile, thank it and move on.
I also sometimes get clients to change the voice. Make it sound like somebody you respect and admire and that will make it much easier to change the content. If this makes you feel worse because you think you are being attacked my somebody you like and/or admire change that sucker back and work on softening the content instead.
Listen to the voice when it is supportive and then when it is whiny or aggressive. Where is it coming from? My 'guess' would be it's probably a different place in your head or even outside your head for that matter. If so, shift the bad voice to the place of the good one and it will be much easier to change the tone and content and the feelings associated.
When you work with submodalities everybody is slightly different in how they code this stuff internally, so just get playful with it and see what works for you!
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