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Old 02-09-2008, 02:02 AM
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I used to get really obsessed with girls, too. Never anything clinical, but at one point I spend probably close to 5 months miserable everyday. I got chronic cramps in my neck from the stress, and was just generally miserable for the entire time. Once I got over this girl, I knew that I could never let something like that happen ever again. Not only was it not effective for getting me a girlfriend, but it took something that should have been about being happy and turned it into an experience that made almost half a year of my life nigh unlivable. So I started looking for answers, I needed to find something that would change me in some way. So I tried a lot of stuff, from writing in a journal to meditation to exercise. Eventually, through the power of an epiphany, I learned that I was placing the value of myself upon external people and events, when my true value was intrinsically in myself, and I was the only one who's opinion was worth considering in matters of what I believe about myself.

I have a good idea of what you're going through, and my only advice is to try anything, everything, to find out what it is about yourself or your situation that you can't tolerate. Looking for your happiness on the outside, in success or girls or money, is only going to continue you down the path you're already on. You need to look inside and find out why you're reaction to these situations is so profoundly miserable.
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