@8 more years: but men never have to and never can go through such torture - is a bond between them and their children then always unattainable then?
@Michelle: maybe, could be. But then again, maybe I'm just seeing my own pain(exaggeratedly) everywhere? Wouldn't that be egoic? I don't know how to explain it... maybe it's me to blame? Like, maybe I'm more concerned with me feeling bad every time someone mentions birth or when I see women who just gave birth some time ago, but not concerned with the feelings of the real sufferers? Do I make any sense?
@Lola, Honey4bees and others who have gone through the hell: sorry, I didn't want to.
Would have taken half of the pain onto me if I could, but I couldn't. Oh well..