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Originally Posted by Maguru  What happens to us changes who we are. It isn't about deciding not to let it affect you. It already has. You will never be the same again. The only way to stop these things happening is to scream it from the rooftops and tell them this has to stop! |
You're right Maguru,
everything that happens to you does change who you are. If you re-read my post, I indicated that
ultimately it doesn't have to affect your perspective and attitude. At first it's difficult to control negative and destructive feelings, but at some point you have to let go or it will destroy you.
In the now famous "A Man's Search For Meaning", Viktor Frankl talks about how the defining quality that distinguished the concentration camp victims who survived, from those who lost hope and died was, "attitude". They all had the same horrifying experiences, but it was perspective and attitude that made the difference in the outcome.