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uberinquisitive · 02-06-2008, 10:46 PM

RioRoseIsaStar - I've been in your shoes. So, I totally understand the insecurity you feel right now. A lot of women deal with this issue.

I don't know your history, but I'm guessing you've had some abandonment issues and some tough times in your past. Be kind to yourself - you've been one way for over 20 years...it takes time to undo so many years of programming!

Keep on reading the books, keep on posting, keep on aggressively pursuing personal development. You are starting to change, but it's still subtle so you may not see it. Over time, the change will accumulate into something pretty extraordinary.

In the meantime - start looking for other guys to date. Dating is a numbers game. The more you date, the easier it is to see that you have ALOT of choices. In fact, you may want to date 4 or 5 different guys at a time. Don't put all your eggs in one basket.

When you to shop for a new car...do you just buy the first car that seems acceptable? No way! You have an idea of the make, model, your budget, new vs. used, color. And then you shop around. You look for the best deal.

What about a new house? Would you just buy the first one that came your way?

So, find out what sort of man you want. And then shop around. There is no shame in looking for the best deal. You are worth it.

02-06-2008, 10:46 PM	#9 (permalink)
uberinquisitive Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 634	RioRoseIsaStar - I've been in your shoes. So, I totally understand the insecurity you feel right now. A lot of women deal with this issue. I don't know your history, but I'm guessing you've had some abandonment issues and some tough times in your past. Be kind to yourself - you've been one way for over 20 years...it takes time to undo so many years of programming! Keep on reading the books, keep on posting, keep on aggressively pursuing personal development. You are starting to change, but it's still subtle so you may not see it. Over time, the change will accumulate into something pretty extraordinary. In the meantime - start looking for other guys to date. Dating is a numbers game. The more you date, the easier it is to see that you have ALOT of choices. In fact, you may want to date 4 or 5 different guys at a time. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. When you to shop for a new car...do you just buy the first car that seems acceptable? No way! You have an idea of the make, model, your budget, new vs. used, color. And then you shop around. You look for the best deal. What about a new house? Would you just buy the first one that came your way? So, find out what sort of man you want. And then shop around. There is no shame in looking for the best deal. You are worth it.