Hi Bliss Sage,
I sometimes feel like the world is full of there 'bully' types, who use aggression and intimidation to get you to do their will.
Of course, all people and circumstances in life are difference, and what's appropriate for one person, or situation, may not be so, for another; please consider that as I express my view on this ...
In some ways, I think it's not good to plea-bargain with bullies, or to plead with them to not behave as they do, or to beg for mercy or leniency etc. To do so, is giving them your power, and reinforcing their power and control over you.
I feel quite strongly, power and control over your own life, starts right inside of you. It resides within you. Maybe you should make a stand (this doesn't have to be confrontational, it may well be firm, it can be firm as steel, yet soft at the same time). The thing is to feel inside of you, what is right for you, what are your priniciples, and stay with them.
Today, I was driving on the motor way. Sometimes, a car comes up very fast behind me, I can almost feel the driver trying to push me our of the way. I did not react one way or the other, I did not cave in and move, I did not fight him and resist (both are forms of reacting to him). I just stay calm, focus on me, what's appropriate for me, and act naturally and appropriately.
Of couse, it's not easy, and some situations (like with your brother), can be very trying, but we're here to learn, and to learn how to be better and stronger people.
Good luck, be strong.
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