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Originally Posted by cdn2wheeler  Still requires action, as you've pointed out. |
Right. The difference is, is my goal to *get* a mate, or is it to *be* a mate? If I am focused on *getting*, that sets me up for frustration and dissatisfaction, whether I'm doing those things or sitting around stewing about why I haven't *gotten* mate yet. If I am focused on *being*, then whether or not I am taking action, whether or not my perfect match is actually there, I am satisfied and fulfilled -- joyful and free.
The potential matches that are attracted to a frustrated and dissatisfied person are quite a bit different that the ones that are attracted to someone who is satisfied, fulfilled, joyful and free.
Also, a difference in the actions that I would take is: with one way of being, my actions are effortful and contain stress, with the other way of being, my actions are effortless, free and fun.
oh, p.s., cdn..last night we went to a theatre called the "Ruskin" and I thought of you!