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Angela · 01-31-2008, 09:33 PM

You're absolutely right; your concept does starkly contrast with my view of what it takes to live a life I'm in love with.

There are several reasons for that, including semantics: the quality I call taking 100% responsibility does NOT involve blame, shame, guilt, or fault. Those conditions don't even exist, within my context. Your article seems to collapse the definition of blame and fault into the concept of taking 100% responsibility. So, you might say, "Don't listen to Angela when she tells you you're 100% responsible; it's your contexts' fault you hate your life!" and that might give you a sense of relief. But we're not really talking about the same thing.

100% responsibility, the way I say it, means: accepting reality, exactly as it is and exactly as it isn't; and looking to see how the way I'm being is having the world occur for me the way it does. If I accept and deliberately be, I am free to choose either to luxuriate in my laziness, in your example, or to choose another way of being that might work better and be more inspiring, like: being vital. But if I believe the thought that "I am lazy, and that's just the way I am, y'all better just deal with it" -- then I'm stuck. I have robbed myself of the freedom to choose. And I am the only person in the entire world who can do that.

So most importantly, the reason I feel that taking 100% responsibility for living a live I love is: It's Empowering. I would simply rather be the cause of my life than be resigned. The world and the people in it do influence me, and sometimes that influence is so strong it looks to me like force. But there is no external power so strong that it can force my choice of who I'm being.

And of course, you are perfectly free to choose the context of: "I have no choice -- I'm entirely at the effect of my context" or any other habitual belief. So's everybody. One really nice thing about the folks here, though, is that there's a preponderance of us who value freedom, and are willing to boldly declare what we can deliberately Be, without regard to the resigned and fearful influence of people who believe that is denial, delusional, or goofy.

Phew. Now I am lazy.

01-31-2008, 09:33 PM	#2 (permalink)
Angela Banned Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 22,520	Lalyl You're absolutely right; your concept does starkly contrast with my view of what it takes to live a life I'm in love with. There are several reasons for that, including semantics: the quality I call taking 100% responsibility does NOT involve blame, shame, guilt, or fault. Those conditions don't even exist, within my context. Your article seems to collapse the definition of blame and fault into the concept of taking 100% responsibility. So, you might say, "Don't listen to Angela when she tells you you're 100% responsible; it's your contexts' fault you hate your life!" and that might give you a sense of relief. But we're not really talking about the same thing. 100% responsibility, the way I say it, means: accepting reality, exactly as it is and exactly as it isn't; and looking to see how the way I'm being is having the world occur for me the way it does. If I accept and deliberately be, I am free to choose either to luxuriate in my laziness, in your example, or to choose another way of being that might work better and be more inspiring, like: being vital. But if I believe the thought that "I am lazy, and that's just the way I am, y'all better just deal with it" -- then I'm stuck. I have robbed myself of the freedom to choose. And I am the only person in the entire world who can do that. So most importantly, the reason I feel that taking 100% responsibility for living a live I love is: It's Empowering. I would simply rather be the cause of my life than be resigned. The world and the people in it do influence me, and sometimes that influence is so strong it looks to me like force. But there is no external power so strong that it can force my choice of who I'm being. And of course, you are perfectly free to choose the context of: "I have no choice -- I'm entirely at the effect of my context" or any other habitual belief. So's everybody. One really nice thing about the folks here, though, is that there's a preponderance of us who value freedom, and are willing to boldly declare what we can deliberately Be, without regard to the resigned and fearful influence of people who believe that is denial, delusional, or goofy. Phew. Now I am lazy.