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Originally Posted by laur_454  He's normally very sweet to me and I have no idea why he'd do this. I notice that my father tends to be harsh when he's angry too. Is this a guy thing maybe? |
No, it's a YOU thing.
You have been accepting this abusive behavior for six months, so why should he stop?
Laur, have you read this thread:
difficult spouse interactions?
This fellow had all the warning signs right from the start, and he married the woman anyway. Now he is firmly entrenched in a situation that is causing him some serious pain. You don't want to find yourself in that boat, do you? You had a close call recently. I hear in your post the same defending of the abuser that poster does; aspiring has been through that; I have done that, too. "But I LOOOOVE him!" -- the anguished cry of the abused partner. The longer you accept the unacceptable, the more firmly the pattern is set. I'm glad to hear it's been only six months, because you'll have a relatively easy time extricating yourself from this. I don't mean necessarily breaking up; I mean interrupting this pattern in which he feels entitled to behave abusively, and you let him.
And you have the power to interrupt this pattern of accepting abuse. I really hope you use that power. What's stopping you? How long will you do this?
Here's wishing you the strength to take a stand for yourself, and have a REAL partner in life.
Lots of love and good healing wishes,
Angela